Boi (sexual slang)

Boi (plural: bois) is a term used within LGBT and butch and femme communities to refer to a person's sexual and gender identity.^[1][2] In lesbian communities, there is an increasing acceptance of variant gender expression, as well as allowing people to self-identify with labels such as boi.^[3][4][5] The term may denote a number of possibilities that are not mutually exclusive:^[6]

• A younger person, possibly embodying stereotyped attributes towards casual sex and commitment in relationships, in contrast with the stereotype of the U-Haul lesbian. Bois may not identify as butch, regarding butches as playing a more powerful or responsible role – the "man of the house" – while a boi is still in a freer, younger phase.
• A (generally) younger guy who prefers older men, and is the "boi" in a "DADDY and boi" dating, relationship, or sexual situation, where "boi" is used to differentiate between someone who is underage, and someone who just identifies as the younger guy who wants or needs an older man. In this context, "boi" can be masculine or effeminate, or anywhere along that spectrum, and some males identify as a "boi" well beyond their 20s, and especially so as long as they are involved with older men. Often, though not always, prefers the submissive role.
• A submissive butch in the BDSM community, or a younger butch in the butch-femme community.^[7]
• A young trans man, or a trans man who is in the earlier stages of transitioning.^[7]

• A term of endearment for butches by femmes.^[7] It may also be used in the gay community to refer to a younger person – bisexual or gay – who may have effeminate characteristics.^[7] The term can also be used by anyone who wishes to distinguish from heterosexual or heteronormative identities.^[7]

Boi may also refer to a female-assigned at birth or female-bodied person, sometimes transsexual, transgendered, or intersexed, sometimes not—that generally does not identify as, or only partially identifies as feminine, female, a girl, or a woman.^[8] Some "bois" identify as one or more of these, but they almost always identify as lesbians, dykes, or queers. Many are also genderqueer or practice genderfuck. Bois may prefer a range of pronouns, including "he", "she", or non-binary and gender-neutral pronouns such as "they", "co", "hir", "sie", "zie", and "ey".^[9] The term has found increasing usage in the larger LGBT culture.

See also

• List of transgender-related topics
• Sk8er Boi
• Tomboy
• Twink

References

1. ^ Maran, Meredith; Angela Watrous (2005, ISBN 1930722508). 50 Ways to Support Lesbian & Gay Equality: The Complete Guide to Supporting Family, Friends, Neighbors — or Yourself .... New World Library. http://books.google.com/books?id=O3Pk1-8oIZYC&dq=lesbian+boi+gender+expression&lr=&source=gbs_summary_s&cad=0. Retrieved 2008-06-23. 
2. ^ Levy, Ariel; Angela Watrous (2006, ISBN 0743284283). Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture. Simon and Schuster. http://books.google.com/books?id=IubF3WamjDYC&dq=lesbian+%22boi%22+gender+expression&source=gbs_summary_s&cad=0. Retrieved 2008-06-23. 
3. ^ Ilyasova, K. Alex (November 2006). "Dykes on Bikes and the Regulation of Vulgarity". International Journal of Motorcycle Studies. http://ijms.nova.edu/November2006/IJMS_Artcl.Ilyasova.html. Retrieved 2007-08-21. 
4. ^ Epstein, Debbie; Richard Johnson (1998, p. 19). "Schooling Sexualities". Buckingham: Open University Press. http://ijms.nova.edu/November2006/IJMS_Artcl.Ilyasova.html. Retrieved 2007-08-21. 
5. ^ Linden, Merritt (27 February 2008). "Radical to Raunch: Articulating and Anticipating Contemporary Lesbian Feminism — An Analysis of Levy’s Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture". Utrecht University. http://66.102.1.104/scholar?hl=en&lr=&q=cache:yLRtUm8G8qEJ:igitur-archive.library.uu.nl/student-theses/2008-0429-200701/Linden%2520CWSCP%2520Thesis.doc+lesbian+boi+gender+expression. Retrieved 2008-06-23. 
6. ^ Curzan, Anne (2003). Gender Shifts in the History of English. Cambridge University Press. ISBN 0521820073. http://books.google.com/books?id=VzzOWXsmb2QC&dq=%22boi%22+gender+expression+terms&source=gbs_summary_s&cad=0. Retrieved 2008-06-23. 
7. ^ ^{a b c d e} Crain, Chris (2007-11-22). "Who’s The Fairest Twink Of Them All?". San Francisco Bay Times. http://www.sfbaytimes.com/index.php?sec=article&article_id=7066. Retrieved 2007-11-25. 
8. ^ Faderman, Lillian; Stuart Timmons (2006,). Gay L.A.: A History of Sexual Outlaws, Power Politics, and Lipstick Lesbians. Basic Books. ISBN 046502288X. http://books.google.com/books?id=I5SVsJmVxDUC&dq=%22boi%22+gender+expression+terms&source=gbs_summary_s&cad=0. Retrieved 2008-06-23. 
9. ^ "Boi or grrl? Pop culture redefining gender". MSNBC. 2005-10-01. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/9556134/. Retrieved 2007-05-07.  Published October 1, 2005

References

External links

• Where the bois are
• Boi's Life Short Doc about Boi Culture by Amaris Blackmore & Heidi Petty
• Boi Meets Play Online magazine exploring Boi Culture and Style